Be kind to yourself as you are to others. Feelings, like thoughts, come and go. If you can get a handle on the concept that thoughts and feelings ‘this too shall pass,’ you can begin to practice self-compassion, self-love, and acceptance and not rooting all that as absolute truth.
There is a saying, “If you don’t have any money in the bank, there is nothing to withdraw for yourself or to give to another”. Life is pretty much that way too. Withholding love from yourself is depletion, and without knowing or feeling goodness for yourself, you cannot give ‘heartfelt love’ in return to anyone that would be genuine in nature.
Being good to yourself just means treating yourself as well as you’d treat a friend. If you spend all your time being good to everyone else, but don’t take the time to pamper yourself or address your own needs, then you will end up unfulfilled.
Being good and kind to others is commendable but if you deprive yourself then nothing else you do will count for much because you will suffer in the long run. Include yourself and make YOU a priority when you perform acts of kindness. Dolby Dharma
“When you die, God and the Angels will hold you accountable for all the pleasures you were allowed in life that you denied yourself.”
Roger Housden, Seven Sins for a Life Worth Living