“After me, you come first.”

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“After me, you come first.”

When my kids were little, I raised them on the Mantra; “after me, you come first.” I believed that if I took care of myself with a little ‘ME’ time, I would have plentiful for them too. Some people thought it was selfish, I believed it was giving; the best parts of me to my family.

Let’s talk about selfish versus self-love. There is a BIG diff.
If you are selfish, you pretty much put yourself ahead of others. Selfishness means that you make sure your needs are met first and foremost, yes in theory that sounds great and self-lovish but like anything you have to weigh in the circumstances. JMO


Self-love means that your needs are always met because you are not depleted, Β should a situation arrive you can put others first. Β When you have a sense of healthy self-love, your needs are met. You have plenty to spare. “πŸ’₯BAM”πŸ’₯ There you have it!

Those who are selfish appear to lack the authentic love of self, they always feel they are missing something or not getting enough, their mantra can be, “what about me?” Therefore, they can only see how the world fits in for them.

When you have a healthy self-love, you can put yourself on the back burner sometimes, go out of your way, be a little uncomfortable to help someone other than yourself, and feel fulfilled at the same time. πŸ’₯“BAM” πŸ’₯

πŸ’” Self-love is not rooted in conditions.
πŸ’” Self-love is not drenched: in vanity.
πŸ’” Self-love does not brush aside others.
😍 Self-love is compassion.
😍 Self-love is not defensive.
😍Self-love is not running from problems.
😍 Self-love is NOT over-giving.
😍 Self-love is sometimes putting other’s first.
😍 Self-love just knows itself.

Just a reminder when your tank is full everyone benefits. It is all about the balance.

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