The brighter the light, the bigger the shadow.
Balance leads to acceptance!
We are powerful, after all, we are fueled by this unseen cosmic energy force feeding our body, mind, and soul. We are a bundle of energy that is expressed through our emotions. Like the Sun-Moon, we too are light-dark. We have ecliptical days, super bright days, and sometimes the shadow is so strong, you might think you are being followed, and you are, by yourself. Before making our way out of “turmoil,” we must walk through the depths of our shadow-self, and make peace with ourselves.
I use to defend that darkness as if it was something bad until I became familiar with the value of its presences. I don’t experience it with guilt, shame, and fear, as much as I experienced the growing pains from my expansion of knowing, claiming those parts of myself. Coming to grips with my shade was liberating. I thought everyone was judging, and they probably were, but I was the biggest judge and jury.
By embracing the shady side of life, you are ready to accept that aspect of yourself, without shame, guilt, and fear leading the force. Accepting your shade will allow you to take responsibility for yourself, and once you understand and acknowledge these dark aspects, instead of avoiding them, suddenly, they will stop having so much control over you.
We are all powerful beings, whether we know it or not. We have a lot of beliefs, rules, that can trigger us in a heartbeat.
I don’t pretend that I am not a powerful woman, I know I am, and I have misused that power, not always knowingly, after all, I am made up of light and goodness as my foundation. I have come to terms many times, making peace, accepting that the shadow, the darkness is as much a part of my being as my light, and, that there is nothing to get rid of, it’s all in the mind, it is how I choose to see and experience my circumstances that will set me free. I just have to show the shadow to the door, so it can embrace the light when the shadow steps out. The light is healing.
We talk about getting rid of the ‘contrary, bad, unseen traits about ourselves, we think that if they are gone somehow, we will be better. Better than…?
Bottom line; There is nothing to get rid of, and the more we believe it is evil, wicked, unacceptable, etc… it will manifest itself into; most likely out-of-control, after all, most of us have heard the expression; “What you resist will persist.”
Ask yourself; Who is your master? What are you worshipping? Those questions can have a way of putting things into perspective. Are we making guilt, shame, judgments, and fear our masters, or are we practicing acceptance, understanding, and love? Always ask yourself who is the right teacher, and you will get instant karma. That is how powerful we are.
Time to accept the multi-faceted beings that we are. Experiencing self-love is to experience the whole-self, to welcome all aspects of us.
Take that voyage into the dark, murky waters, sit with the unknown courageously. Not only does that free us up to be unapologetically ourselves, but we can look at our friends, strangers, and loved ones with more understanding, compassion, and fewer judgments. The truth is when we call others out, we are essentially calling ourselves out.
When we accommodate the shadows, we can experience a balance, can experience an inner unification of opposing forces that can complement and heal our lives, in ways that are miraculous if we allow both opposites live.
We have been taught to deny, hide, and keep the darkest parts of ourselves hidden. It is time to know that all good things don’t have to be and are not perfect. And remember, that our shady parts are also some of the champion parts of who we are.
You are asking, “Who are you, who am I?” I don’t know. Neither has anyone ever known, and this unknowability is the beauty of our being. –Rajneesh
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