*You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and shoves you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee?*
“Well because someone bumped into me, of course!”
You spilled the coffee because coffee was in the cup.
If tea had been in it, you would have spilled tea.
Whatever is inside the cup is what will come out.
Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside of you will come out. It’s easy to fake it until you get rattled.
So we have to ask ourselves….what’s in my cup?
When life gets tough, what spills over?
Joy, gratefulness, peace, and humility?
Or anger, bitterness, harsh words, and actions?
Anger, love, peace, joy, etc. are comprised of energy. But the one that blocks our birthright flow is ANGER. It can consume us, destroy us, and leave us broken. Until we can become aware of this surge that can overtake us, we cannot heal it or even get a handle on it.
Resistance only fuels this emotional time bomb. No one wants to take ownership of anger; it’s something that is seen as ugly, negative, harmful, and unacceptable.
Anger never gets us what we want; it just imprisons us, and starts to kill the healthy happy cells in our bodies; and…dis~ease is created.
So, what do we do with this turned up heated emotion?
- Acknowledge there is angry.
- Understand that we are never angry, upset, or mad for the reasons we think we are.
- Know that your anger is about YOU. Somebody pulled the trigger and you are taking the bullet. YOUR choice.
- Take internal inventory with honesty; not shame, blame, guilt, and fear. But with self-compassion, understanding, and a hunger to explore where the anger is feeding.
Anger is tied up to our personality, daily actions, beliefs, and how we see the world. Anger is passed down from our ancestors. Anger is learned behaviors, that need to be understood, unlearned before we can manage those sudden upsets, and outbursts.
Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation to yourself and others, kindness, gentleness, and love.
Mantra: As I breathe in, I cherish myself
“The trouble with anger is, it gets hold of you. And then you aren’t the master of yourself anymore. Anger is.”
~ Jeanne DuPrau
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