The gift of projection is that when we’re triggered, we’re given the opportunity to see our blind spots or our places of unconsciousness. Let’s take projection at face value and assume that it means what ego thinks it means.
We remain perpetually stuck at first-layer living, never moving beyond the mindset that others are responsible both for our pain and our joy. But when we catch the projection by calling it onto the mat by its true name (“I’m in a projection right now. It feels real, but I know it’s not”), we harvest its jewels, which are fundamentally the jewels of consciousness.
This phenomenon – that we need others to see our stuck places and blind spots – illuminates one of the beautiful truths about being human: we need each other to grow. Other humans are our mirrors, and like we can never see our faces without a literal mirror, so we can never see the true nature of our souls in their light and darkness without other humans.
Of course, all of this hinges on adopting a growth mindset instead of remaining fused with the ego-based characters of Perfection, Helpless Victim, and Resistance. We all have these characters inside us, and they assume dominance in varying degrees at different stages of our lives.
Still, if we’re going to grow beyond our pain and see anxiety and projection as the messengers that they are, we must reach down into the river that runs beneath these fear-based characters – the river of Soul – so that we can get on top of them and connect to our desire to grow.
When the desire to grow overpowers our fear of change, we can push the blocks of Resistance out of the way and walk through the doorway that leads to our next notch of growth.
Projection can happen in a moment or over time, but it must happen. One moment at a time, one dialogue at a time, one decision at a time, we take the reins from fear and decide to take full responsibility for our well-being. The projection bursts, and we can then harvest its gems, bathe ourselves in the light of consciousness, and continue on our path of learning how to love.
The Gift of Projection Sheryl Paul – Conscious Transitions.

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