What is the art of defenselessness? It is a knowing who we are while shifting the perspective into understanding what is being criticized about you. Not an easy practice as you know, because when someone is calling you out of what THEY perceive as bullshit, can be painful to hear. Our first reaction is to call bullshit by defending ourselves against the attack. We will never escape another’s opinion, point of view of you or how to be, live and breathe, after all, we are all traveling this life in our perspectives of what is ‘Right or Wrong.’
I use to live my life defending my renegade personality; I spent years in therapy working on understanding why I felt the need to show them they were wrong about me, seriously, what the hell was I thinking, obviously not much about myself.
It was when I began to understand and accept myself on a deeper level in relationship to life; I could drop the storyline of defending myself against what someone else thought was the truth of me.
When we stop defending who we are, or why we do the things we do or even think the way we do, the critics soon realize you are untouchable. Don’t be someone’s target, own yourself and do not defend who you are, in the end, the defense only corroborates with something to be defended. An attack from anyone reveals more about them than you. So the next time someone lashes out at you or says something unjust, say, “you may be right,” I love that, gets em every time. In the end, you know YOUR truth.
You are you, you are amazing, you are blessed, and you are loved! ❤
“You have to know what you stand for, not just what you stand against.”
― Laurie Halse Anderson