The ties that burn us and bind us!

Families are complicated and ever-changing beings, but family can be the most significant source of contention in our lives.

There is no one answer to family relationship challenges; after all, we all have our own perceptions of what is going on.

There are many expectations and privileges that the family believes they are entitled too.

They try to control, manipulate, and let’s not forget how entitled they feel; they have expectations; after all, we are family; we have rights.

Uhhhhhhhhhhhh no you don’t.

How many of us dread the holidays, because we feel we HAVE to go or we will get heat for not showing up.

We’re all uniquely designed, which is the beautiful part about being you, but this can cause friction, and separation within families, especially if you are not feelin the herd.

Sometimes accepting our differences allows for the relationship to continue without old hurts, expectations, and resentment.

But that would mean knowing we have differences.

Due to having EGOs and the drive to be ‘right,’ we miss the entire point of individuality, as not being separate, but bringing wholeness to the family.

Sometimes we just have to stop fighting with our need to be seen, heard, and accepted; breakthrough to what is true; and know the love we feel for ourselves will prevail against all the odds.


You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to unless you’ve allowed the family to pull the trigger within.

Remember, it is just their opinions, their wants, and desires…NOT yours.

If you don’t believe in their stories, it won’t affect you.

The EGO wants its way, but if we can accept, allow, and know the truth of who we are, a bundle of wounded souls waiting to unlearn the old paradigm—                                                      EVERYBODY WINS.

‘IF’ WINNING IS A THING 😉 the problem with the need to WIN, there will always be a loser. ☹️ NOBODY WINS

The bottom line; JUST BE KIND. 🥰🥰🥰🥰


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2 thoughts on “The ties that burn us and bind us!

  1. thank you for your post. Unfortunately most of my family has moved away to Florida to get away from the snowy Northwest. I have fond memories of the holidays with them and I have sad feelings when they moved away. I have my aging mother I care for now and live a much quieter lifestyle now.

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