We exist in each other, as unappealing or appealing as it may be; we are each other. In spite of feeling separate and individual, and cringing at the thought of being as a frienemy, or just another human, like it or not, we are each other. What we do for ourselves we do for others, because there is no separation, only in our minds.
It might not appear so, after all, we judge all day long and rule out any idea that we might be ‘that,’ to keep ourselves separate, unique, and individual.
I remember seeing Wayne Dyer speaking at a weekend conference I had attended many years ago, he told the story of the ‘Babemaba’ tribe and I was deeply affected how this tribe handled someone who might have done something unkind, maybe committed a crime; and how transgression(s) are seen as part of the persons’ life. Not judged good, not wrong, just something that needs to be brought back into alignment.
How beautiful is that?
The story of the Babemba Tribe
“In the Babemba tribe of South Africa, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he is placed in the center of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, and every man, woman, and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual.
Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused, one at a time, each recalling the good things the person in the center of the circle has done in his lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be remembered with any detail and accuracy, is recounted. All his positive attributes, good deeds, strengths, and kindnesses are recited carefully and at length. This tribal ceremony often lasts for several days.
In the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically and literally welcomed back into the tribe.” Brighteyes,
How profound, imagine if we uplifted even the worst of the worst in a way that they begin to see themselves as part of ‘community’ instead of busting into lives imposing and hurting others, fighting for themselves because they feel as if they don’t belong. We might have a different society, one that understands that nobody wins because of individuality, status or religious beliefs to create division, but maybe a society who makes the best out of our existence however long or short here on earth. Bottom line, like it or not: EVERYBODY transitions, we leave this physical body and return to love.
There is a lot to learn from these hidden tribes, we are far too distracted by our egos, toys, and separateness to begin to think about how our actions infect or affect the whole.
The Babemba and the Ubuntu philosophy teaches us the importance of two concepts:
- CARING, which is the awareness that what affects one may affect many and the recognition that we are all bound together, that there is a oneness to humanity.
- Having EMPATHY for the members of our communities, and the ability to understand the feelings or the situation of others from their perspective.
- So ubuntu means love, truth, peace, and goodness, and has long guided African society.
“Africans have a thing called ‘Ubuntu.’ We believe that a person is a person through other persons. That my humanity is caught up, bound up, inextricably, with yours. When I dehumanize you, I dehumanize myself. The solitary human being is a contradiction in terms. Therefore you seek to work for the common good because your humanity comes into its own in community, in belonging.”