Do you know what it is like to actively listen to another person’s POV?
Do you understand how liberating it is to listen to someone talk about a subject that rubs you the wrong way, and not feel the need to react?
We all have our realities, our beliefs, and ways of doing things and that is great. It is healthy to have a good sense of self, a perspective, an idea, and opinions; that is living YOUR authentic life.
Self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and just sense of self, is listening to another’s perspective and not flying off the handle or feeling the need to sway them to your POV or prove them wrong.
Most of the time we don’t see things as they are, but as we are or want them to be.
We look at situations, events, and interpret what other people say and do, according to past experiences, and core belief system which is formed and influenced by; current values, circumstances, faith, culture, and how we were brought up. All of these variables contribute and shape our beliefs about ourselves, others and how we perceive the world. Let’s not forget personality, character traits, including genetic influences. We are envolving humans working on living our own dream.
Arguments and wars are created out of fear, not listening, and misinterpretations, etc.
It is a real art to be able just to listen to another without having to add anything; except for allowing them their perspective, idea, opinion, and way of living.
It is a practice to listen more because we all have something to say and we want to be heard and acknowledged.
Give this a whirl; when engaged in conversations and you feel like you don’t agree or even if you do, just listen. When you allow different perspectives it reduces stress levels, you feel more confident, and it helps you to have more understanding and empathy for another as well as yourself.
This active listening skill improves your relationships all the way around; it is inviting, and an open invitation to allowing everyone their POV.
Even if we agree to disagree, That is freedom. We get what we give most of the time.
‘Allowing’ is one of the many aspects of what self-love is rooted in.
In a rapidly ascending balloon were two men.
One watched the earth getting farther and farther away.
One watched the stars getting nearer and nearer.
~George Jean Nathan, “Viewpoint,”