Valentine’s day is the hallmark holiday that means something different for everyone. For me, it’s just another day, for other’s it means somebody loves them. Yep, somebody loves me, I was remembered, I am special blaH blaH blaH.

If only we understood the truth: the more we have ‘self-love,’ the more love comes our way. BAM…  Every day is an opportunity to love ourselves more and know thy selves deeper. It’s the perfect foundation for being a loving presence for you and everyone around you.

I have witnessed many friends dropping hints to their significant other for what they want for this over glorified not the real meaning of love day-did I just say that in one breath? Whew! The more attached to the outcome they were, the farther away the action of love eluded them. The heartache and disappointment set in, and hearts were broken apart. It is too much pressure to demand we wake up to some superficial Hallmark day. It is NOT for us; it is for the BIG businesses capitalizing on the hearts of the lonely ones, single and married.

You might be thinking; How do I get through this over glorified V-day when I feel so alone when EVERYONE seems to be in love and doing all the great things lovers do on February 14th? Not always easy especially if you are attached to the meaning behind the day and the outcome of what you perceive love actually to be. Disappointment is HUGE and can rob you of feeling worthy.

The most important… And I mean a significant relationship you can have is the one with yourself. That missing emotion of self-abiding love for the beautiful creation you are is the primary ingredient missing in all your relationships, believe it or not, it can keep us from the love we are craving. You know the saying, to have friends, you have to be a friend first. That applies to most things in life, and it certainly applies to how we feel about ourselves. Loving ourselves is not selfish but necessary.

Self-love is honoring the wholeness that you are without a partner.

Self-love is celebrating you.

Self-love is creating rituals for yourself, so you feel celebrated.

Self-love is practicing self-care, self-awareness, self-acceptance.

Self-love is not needing anyone or anything to complete you.

Self-love is wanting what you already have.

Self-love is loving others because YOU feel that awesome love.

Self-love is giving ‘YOU’ what you need, and only ‘YOU’ know what that is.

Self-love is knowing everything else in life is a compliment to you.

Self-love is all about feeling empowered and fueled by the depth of your own beautiful heart.

Self-love is living intentionally from the heart, YOUR heart.

Don’t be surprised when all that crazy good love comes flooding in.

Brace yourself, I feel a wave of love coming your way!

Life is about celebrating YOURSELF! Nobody does it better baby!