I was talking to a friend the other day who was having a hard time digesting some relationship shit. We bantered back and forth about the scenario that was crippling the mind.
As we bantered, I said, “I was calling in the bomb squad.” It was my way of defusing the energy wrapped around the story that was only living in the mind. Because it was not happening at that moment but again, in the mind.
Feeling like you can explode any moment can be tense, if not, downright crippling. To add insult to the injury, if you don’t know how to deal with feelings of anger and fear, guilt, and rejection, you’re likely to turn them inward at yourself.
When we are out of control and can’t flip the mind into a more productive space, this type of spiral can deplete the emotional mind, emotional body, spiritual and physical energy. Ultimately leaving no reserve or an initiative to experience joy, resolve, and peace. As a result, we feel drained, stuck in a spiral of paranoia that can lead to depression.
How do we defuse?
First witness the experience as it is happening, don’t push it away, just allow it. Sometimes we feel bad for having such feelings. But if we only allow the feelings to be as they are, there is a defusing that can enter, and guilt, shame, and fear can fade.
Take ownership These feelings are happening inside your body now as your cells recall the brain pain. Even though nothing is actually taking place in the here and now. Your body is experiencing the mind’s eye of the trauma. If you can take ownership that this is just your mind spinning, you also know as soon as you own it, you will be ok. Now it is something you are naming and claiming. You can relax.
Discharge the emotions yes, breath into it, then release the breath. Start chanting the “The Ho’oponopono prayer for healing mantra is something that is used to heal yourself, which will change others. … If I notice anything that I manifested or attracted into my life that is negative, then I just repeat the mantra: I love you. I’m sorry.”
Forgive YOURSELF you have done nothing wrong having recognition that the problem is not outside but rather inside the mind.
“Forgiving yourself, believing in yourself and choosing to love yourself are the best gifts one could receive.”
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