I have missed writing my blogs, I have returned from a fantastic two-week trip to Europe, and now I am back home, and that feels pretty incredible as well.

Who are you? That is the question I ask myself on the daily. Most of us have built our lives around our ‘social selves’.

When you stop and look deep within, and I am sure we all ponder our social day; our actions, thoughts, connections.

Our social selves live according to what we think others what to see, or how we want to be seen. Given that most of the time we have chosen that social scenario, we are in constant turmoil sometimes wishing things were different, freaking out wondering how to get it right, how to be happy, to find peace, love, abundance and a more profound way to live.

We have layered ourselves with our masks, false persona’s in search of what we think is real, what we believe will get us what we want. But deep down, we all know it is just an illusion, made up by our thoughts our social self-thinking; What will others think, I can’t do that, I will be judged, and a host of other so-called, ‘social norms’ that we believe makes us unique.

So, how do we get to our true nature, our essence, the core of who we are that nobody sees, not even us at times?

What we really can benefit from is to treat ourselves with kindness, compassion, self-acceptance, and understanding. To practice getting in touch with ourselves, to tap into our light, our integrity, and the deeper meaning behind our lives that the social game has nothing to do with us.  So much love Dolby Dhama

Exercise: Letter to Your Essential Self

Once you have done this, try this exercise: Write a let­ter addressed to “Dearly Beloved,” or whatever name you choose for your Essential Self. Describe your current situ­ation as precisely as you can, the good and the apparently difficult. Ask the most important questions you may have, as clearly as you can; then release all thought, have no precon­ceptions. Develop the habit of a poised mind, like a sailboat on a calm sea waiting for the wind.

Our purpose here is precise. It is to establish direct con­tact with the inner voice, the still, small voice of God express­ing as your Essential Self. Start writing any sentence as the in­ner voice, and see what unfolds. Do not edit, judge, or correct anything. If nothing comes, that is fine. Continue to be still.

If you have been hearing an inner voice and writing in your journal before, this process will be relatively easy. If you have not yet tried this, simply follow the steps with no expectations. Find your own way to connect to your Inner Guide. It may be through other paths than words, like a felt-sense or deep intuition. This much I know for sure: What­ever happens will be helpful. Everyone has within a deeper, wiser, all-knowing self.

Copyright 2012 by Barbara Marx Hubbard.
Reprinted with permission of Hampton Roads Publishing Co.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. ” – Ralph Waldo Emerson